“It is Okay, to Not Be Okay.”

Part 1 – Realization

As we go through life, experiencing new feelings and new emotions, we learn new lessons. These lessons make us stronger. Each day we become a better, stronger version of ourselves. But…

You don’t have to be strong all the time.

It is okay to let yourself cry, its okay to not always be “alright.”

It is not a sign of weakness. You have come so far. Take a look back at how far you have come. Be proud.

It is okay to be overwhelmed. This is a new start. You need to find your new normal, find yourself again.

Strong people are not strong 24/7. Even the strongest people you think you know, have moments of weakness. Everyone has them.

These moments of weakness come and they test us. They make us feel things we don’t want to feel.¬†They make us force ourselves to remember why we are strong, why we are where we are today.

Our minds are so powerful. The mind will tempt us with good memories, with feelings of sadness and sorrow. It might make us question what we have done. It is okay to feel these things.

Know that these moments will pass, at the beginning we must take it moment by moment. We need to take these moments in, to remind ourselves why we are here. Why we have decided to do what we did.

It is in overcoming these moments of weakness, that we make ourselves stronger. The more we overcome, the stronger we become.

Part Two – Reassurance

This is why at the beginning; the first days, the first weeks, that we experience these moments so regularly. It is building a foundation, which our strength will grow upon.

Each life lesson gives us a new pillar of strength within. We are filled with these pillars of strength. Each new breakup will build a new pillar, with a new life lesson. New strength. These pillars come together to build that castle that is ourselves. The foundation to building a castle of love, love for one’s self. It is in finding new strength that we learn to love ourselves. Which is key in being capable of loving anything or anyone else truly.

It is so hard at first. Find strength and lean on those around you. Lean on your friends and family. People who build you up, push you to be better, push you to succeed. We have all felt this way one time or another.

My loving father reassured me one day, this day came after a night where I laid in bed and struggled to find my strength. Before I knew it, my mind was filled with all these thoughts. All the happy times, wondering how the other party was feeling. Picturing him struggling, sad. My body filled with over powering emotions. Next thing I knew tears where escaping from my eyes. It was in that moment that I had to force myself to remember why I made the decision I did. That I was in an unhealthy place in my life. It helped me to remember the encouraging and reassuring words my friends and family said to me when I had the courage to leave. Remembering how his grandfather had nothing but praise for my strength. Making myself see the bigger picture, reminding myself of the new, exciting goals I had set for myself. That morning I woke up stronger. I was reassured of this when my dad said “You know, you don’t always have to be so strong, Its okay.” In that moment I replied, “I know”. I did. I knew that my moments of weakness where not in fact weak, for they make me stronger.

Treasure every moment. Each struggle, each moment of weakness, these work to build a better version of yourself.

Next time there is a moment of weakness, believe in yourself. Do not cave in. Strive to overcome and celebrate your achievement. Feel the power within. Realize that our minds will tempt us, they will show us things that we don’t want to see. When picture the other party sitting there crying, realize that the reality is, they probably are going about their life just fine.

Remember why you changed your life. Remember your strength. This time is so important to work on ourselves. To build ourselves into even stronger, more amazing people.

Be proud of yourself always. Always strive to see your strength. Be amazed at what you are capable of. Love yourself first and the rest will follow.

Celebrate yourself. You are truly amazing.




*** My favourite song for this topic will always be “A Little bit Stronger” by Sara Evans. If you have not heard, I encourage you to listen. Take in the lyrics. She talks about how she gets a little bit stronger through every moment of her day. “It doesn’t happen over night, but you turn around and a months gone by and you realize you haven’t cried, I’m not giving you and hour or another moment longer, I’m busy getting stronger.” and “Even on my weakest days I get a little bit stronger.” The whole song is empowering to reassure that we are always getting stronger, we will never be the same, because we are stronger now than ever before.

Do you have a song that gets you through time of struggle? How do you push yourself to overcome moments of weakness?

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