Happy Tuesday!

A little quote to get you thinking and thriving through the day!

How true; There are NO failures, just discoveries.

The mind is such a powerful tool. We, as humans, don’t even understand all that it is capable of. What we can confirm, is that having a positive, growth mindset can change your life. Don’t believe me? Stick around and try it for yourself.

Looking back at your past, you can choose to be ashamed at the way you may have acted, upset that people hurt you the way they did, and spend your time dwelling on things that you wish you knew back then.

OR

✔️You can choose to be present in the NOW.
✔️You can choose to look back at all those past “mistakes” and change your perception of them.
✔️You can be thankful that you were given that mountain to climb, after all it was through the journey that you learned the things you did.
✔️You can choose to forgive the people who hurt you. We are all human, we have all made mistakes and there is no need to dwell on things we can not change. You can realize that people change, people grow apart and not everyone that was in your past will be in your future. You can thank them, for teaching you. Teaching you how people shouldn’t treat others and how we SHOULD treat others. For showing you what kind of people you want to let into your life and which ones you should steer clear of.
✔️You can choose to forgive yourself. Forgive yourself because you are a better person today, you have grown and learned from everything that has happened to you, whether you realize it or not. (I hope you do)

Notice how all those points start with YOU CAN. You can choose to look at the glass half full rather than half empty. You can choose how you react to situations.

I hope you take the steps to let go, learn from and appreciate your past. I hope you can laugh at the silly things you did. I hope you can take everything you have learned, apply it to today and your future.

Be open to change and allow yourself to have a growth mindset. Recognize that there is always room for growth. Be the best version of yourself, everyday.

💞Ciara

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Happy Friday All! What are you grateful for today? I want to hear!

Having a grateful mindset can change your life. Are you living your true, best life? Are you spending the majority of your time in a positive head space? You spend a lot of time in your head, why not make it a wonderful place to be?

How can you start living a life full of gratitude and pure happiness?

Play – make time for fun! Especially in times of mental stress or big decisions that need to be made.

Redefine your relationship with your past – the mistakes and the failures. Look back and recognize the lessons learned. Look for the gift in each situations. The biggest learning lessons in our lives didn’t come from textbooks, they come from mistakes and recognizing the opportunity to grow and learn.

Brighten up someone else’s day! Be a light for others, If you are looking for joy and positivity; be the source and pass it on to other. Watch the universe deliver it back, ten fold. “be the change you wish to see in the world”

 Rest – you are not a machine, take care of yourself! You can not take care of others if you do not take care of yourself. There is power in “alone” or “me” time. Harness this power and watch the magic flow.

 Celebrate small wins! Set goals, but also make sure there are small, achievable goals to keep you feel positive and full of motivation.

Get Outside! It is truly amazing the effect connecting with nature has on ones soul. Plant your bare feet on the grass and feel the connection. Feel the reset. Close your eyes and breathe in the fresh air. Listen to the birds chirping around you, the wind in the trees. Feel your body and soul relax.

Tune into your gratitude! Two people can look at a situation and have a completely different view of it. Look at each situation and find the good! Start each day by listing 3 things you are grateful for, big and small. This starts your day on a positive note. I have done this for the past year, when you are feeling down, or having a bad day, STOP. Stop what you are doing, close your eyes, take 3 deep breaths, now think of 3 things you are grateful for. So life has thrown you a lemon, you can either sit there and complain about getting a sour lemon, or you can take the lemon and make lemonade, lemon tarts, or lemon pie. The possibilities are endless when gratitude it recognized. It may sound silly, but give it a try and I PROMISE you will feel a shift in your life.

 Step away and let go of negativity. Be that a situation or a person. Release all that does not serve you. This is not being selfish, this is self-love and recognizing your worth. Choose you. Choose happiness. Life is to short to be anything but happy and to treat each day as anything less than a gift. Spend it doing what you love with whom you love.

 SMILE. The simple act will put you in a happier state. It will radiate to others, with a simple smile you are manifesting positivity into your life. Smile because you are amazing, you are here and there is SO much to be grateful for each day. You have never seen this day before, the possibilities are endless, how amazing is that?

Being positive is a choice. Choosing happiness can have a profound impact on your life, your relationship[s and in every aspect of you life.

Are you choosing to live a positive life? If not, if you are struggling, today is the day to make the change!

Be the person you wish the world was full of. Change starts with you!

All my love, always.

Ciara 💞

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What if?

Is your “what if” holding you back?

A statement that is a result of fear.

Fear of what? Fear of striking out?

What’s the worst that could happen? Okay maybe you don’t succeed. By not succeeding, you have the ability to learn and to grow. What didn’t work out? Why didn’t things go as planned? Was it meant to be? What can be learned from this so that you can grow forward?

There is no “bad” side to taking chances. Life is all about taking chances, never let the fear of striking out keep you from living your best life every day.

Do what sets your soul on fire. Life is way to short and unpredictable to be spent living in the comfort zone.

Get out there, explore, take chances. Always be kind. Life isn’t always easy and your smile could change someones day, maybe even their life. Love with all your heart, everyday. When you find someone who deserves your heart, embrace it.

Live your best life, all your life.

What if its the best decision you could make? Don’t let your “what if”s hold you back.

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Kindness Will Always Prevail

Always be kind to people, especially those who are unkind to you.

I believe that mean people, bullies, are broken and hurting inside.

Some people are cruel in hopes that by cutting someone else down, it might put some pieces from their broken puzzle back together, make them feel whole.

Instead of retaliating and fuelling their fire, choose to forgive them.

When they spew hateful, hurtful words, smile, tell them you forgive them and hope they one day find peace and walk away.

Then pray, to whatever higher power you believe in, simply put it out to the universe;  That this person one day is able to forgive whatever is holding them back and that they may find happiness.

Do not waste your energy dwelling over those who hurt you. Forgive them, wish them well and move on. Fight the urge to stoop to their level and give them one piece of their broken puzzle, Hope.

In the end, always choose love,

Ciara

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Patience 

He is out there right now.

He is out there living his life. Making memories with all the important people in his life. People I haven’t even met yet, some people I might never get to meet.

Maybe tonight he’s heart broken. Letting his emotions get the best of him. Kept awake at night by the pain he’s feeling. Each day he’s getting stronger too.

Maybe today is one of the best days of his life, something I will one day hear about.

With no doubt he is out there working hard, trying to make a living. Make a future for him self and his future family.

He has this beautiful life, all these beautiful memories, all this beauty I haven’t even had the pleasure of seeing.

It’s an amazing feeling, realizing that somewhere out there is a man I will one day meet. Maybe one day in passing, on fluke at an event; but I have no doubt that it will be because we were both in the right place at the right time.

Someone who is just waiting for someone like me. Who will treat me like nothing I have felt before. Someone who will take care of me. Love me unconditionally and be thankful for me every day. As will I.

When the time is right, I know our paths will cross. Everything happens for a reason and we are never somewhere we are not supposed to be.

He is out there right now.

Listen to Her

Listen to her when she has the courage to sit you down, to tell you how she is feeling. When she talks, give her your undivided attention. Let her know that her words are important to you, that it is okay for her to open up. Make her feel safe.

Listen to the way her voice breaks, notice how her eyes are filling with the tears she’s trying to hold back. Over flowing with emotion, now more than ever she needs you to listen. To hear every word she is saying and understand the way she is hurting.

Listen, you will hear her heart re-break as she replays all the ways you have hurt her. Her guard is down, becoming completely vulnerable. Laying everything that fills her mind, thoughts that keep her up at night on the table in front of you.

Your reaction is everything during this crucial time. Do not get mad, Do not turn away. Do not try to justify why you may have done what you did or say what you said. More important than anything else, do not raise your voice at her. Ever.

Making her feel as though the way she is hurting is invalid will only shut her down. She will bottle up all her feelings. Starting to pull away, the connection you two once had will slowly start to unravel. Once you make her feel this way, everything will start to change.

“It’s Fine” , “It is Okay” , “I don’t care” ; become regular statements. She’s pulling away. You cut her down. Every little thing you do now becomes so much bigger; the little things you say to ‘pick’ on her, how you ‘joke’ around, she will hold on to all of these moments. These will start to pile up.

Until one day she can not take it anymore. She won’t look at you with the same love in her eye, the way she did before. She’ll begin to see you in a different light. You will no longer be someone she desires. Your fingers running across her skin will no longer send chills down her spine. She’ll only wish you would keep your hands to yourself.

Once she realizes she has the strength, she will turn and walk away. Gathering what is left of her heart, out the door she will go. You can call all you want, beg her to come back, tell her you are sorry, you can try to reassure her that this time you will change. Your efforts will fail. You will realize what it feels like to be ignored.

It takes an unbelievable amount of strength, to listen to you beg and cry for her to come back. It will take all her might to ignore you. She will hang up and a few tears might fall, she might let a tear fall as she hits ignore again and again. She will not break. She will remember all the times you made her cry, how you stopped coming to hold her, how her tears no longer made you feel remorse. She will remember how you cut her down, made her feel invalid.

All you had to do was listen. Take the time to sit with her, hold her as she cried. All you had to do was hear the words that broke her, to change the way you speak to her, the way you make her feel when she comes home after a long day at work. Building her up instead of cutting her down would have made the difference. Instead she will learn to love herself again.

She will build herself back up. One day she will find that she doesn’t cry over the thought of you anymore. The way you hurt her will no longer make her cringe. She will find herself smiling, a true happy smile, for the first time in a long time.

All you had to do was listen.

But it is too late now.

Your Face

Your eyes captivate me,

hold onto me so tight, I’m lost in them.

Your ears listen to my stories,

the ones I never felt meant anything to anybody, until you.

Your lips mesmerize me,

I could watch you talk for hours,

although when they meet mine, the world is right.

Your face, is all I have ever dreamt of and more.

You are my dream come true.

 

The first rainfall since the day I left

I can feel all the hurt, the pain, the tears, all the heart-break, it washes away with the rain

This is where I begin again, I am clean

Have you ever stopped to admire the beauty that is the wind?

Such a majestic, invisible force.

The most gentle breeze, caressing the flowers.

A little more force, making the bushes dance in its path.

Even more force, making trees drop at its feet.

The ability to gently soothe a hot summers day,

freeze an already freezing winters night,

cause mass destruction in a matter of minutes.

Thank the wind next time, for ruining your hair instead of your house.

 

-Ciara

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